We all judge other people, even if we know it’s wrong. But what if, once in a while, we’d judge a little less?
After all, how much of their stories do we truly know?
What road did we take in their shoes? What part of their pain did we feel? What glimpse of their sight did we see? What sound of their music did we hear?
How many of their reasons are ours?
How many definitions do we have in common?
We judge because we compare. Random elusory comparisons, based on frustrations, unmet expectations, and constant exhaustible escape from our true selves. Could it be the case that we’re avoiding the responsibility that comes with introspection?
Why not invest this effort in mapping ourselves?
Why focus on judging others when understanding them can be so much more rewarding?
Can we judge ourselves by the same criteria we use on others? Are we as by-the-book with our own slips? As C.S. Lewis said, “Integrity is doing the right thing, even when no one is watching”, so let’s try that on us. Under similar circumstances, what would we do? Realistically. Ego and flattering aside. Would we truly act any different than the ones we judge? If so, what makes our choice better?
So, before we judge, let’s answer some of these questions for ourselves, and perhaps we can still be reasonable on time.
We all judge other people, even if we know it’s wrong. So, once in a while, let’s judge a little less.